lessons i learned from gilmore girls {3.}...

Happy Monday blog pals! I am SO excited to present to you the third post in a blog collaboration called, 'Lessons I Learned from Gilmore Girls'. This has quickly become one of my favorite blog features. Like I have already said, I love 'Gilmore Girls' and it has introduced me to some new blog friends that want to guest post! This next post is from the ever lovely Jaymie! Make sure you check out her blog when you are done reading her fabulous post! Enjoy...

*Post Written By Jaymie*

So after reading Shelby’s amazing Gilmore Girls post, I realized that I have a pretty good follow-up. Remember a couple of episodes after Lorelai’s long rambling movie reference phone call to Luke about coming over to her house? Yeah, Luke and Lorelai get back together. Luke knocks on Lorelai's door and after she answers, Luke just grabs her in his arms and they kiss in the doorway just like their first kiss. However, to break some hearts, my lesson comes from the episode where Lorelai actually ends the relationship and engagement. (Season 6, Episode 22: Partings)

Lorelai gives Luke an ultimatum:

Lorelai: I don’t want to talk. All we’ve done for months is talk. I want to do, I want to go.

Luke: You can’t just take off and get married.

Lorelai: Why not, Luke? Don’t you love me?

Luke: You know I do.

Lorelai: But I love you, Luke. I love you, but I have waited and I have stayed away, and I have let you run this thing, and no more. I asked you to marry me and you said yes.

Luke: I’m just trying to think.
Lorelai: We fixed up the house, right? And we have a bigger closet and I didn’t get the purple wallpaper because you didn’t want the purple wallpaper and if it’s between you and the purple wallpaper, I pick you. I pick you.

Luke: I didn’t tell you not to get the purple wallpaper.

Lorelai: Oh my god, you didn't like it.

Luke:I don’t care about wallpaper.

Lorelai: Do you care about me?

Luke: Yes.

Lorelai: Because I’m going crazy here. I made a commitment to you and I need to make it happen.

Luke: It will. It will happen. Okay? I just have April to consider.

Lorelai: For months, I’ve been sulking around, not saying anything, not having an opinion on anything like I’m Clarence Thomas or something, and’m done with that. I’ve been waiting for a long time and I don’t want to wait anymore.
Luke: I have to think this through.

Lorelai: No!

Luke: I have April to consider.

Lorelai: You’re going to have to figure out how April fits into our lives, not the other way around.

Luke: I’m trying.

Lorelai: Well, try married.

Luke: Just wait.

Lorelai: No, I’m not waiting. It’s now or never.

Luke: I don’t like ultimatums.

Lorelai: I don’t like Mondays, but unfortunately, they come around eventually.

Luke: I can’t just jump like this.

Lorelai: Well, I’m sorry to hear that. And I have to go.

Lorelai eventually decides to leave someone she loves. She gave Luke a choice and he could not tell Lorelai that he wanted to marry her right then. I honestly believe that this is one of Lauren Graham’s best scenes. You can just feel the emotion running through her at the moment she has to do something that she really doesn’t want to do – walk away.Although every single Gilmore Girls lover adores Lorelai and Luke together and although we all hate to see them part, we all know Lorelai’s decision is the right one.

Then, the follow-up episode (Season 7, Episode 1: “The Long Morrow”), Lorelai basically explains to Sookie why she made the decision she did.

Lorelai: Luke and I are over.

Sookie: Over?

Lorelai: Yeah.

Sookie: No…
Lorelai: Yeah.

Sookie: You guys had a fight.

Lorelai: We had THE fight.

Sookie: People have fights. It’s okay. It’s good, actually. You know,it’s healthy. You don’t have fights, all these chemicals build up and you get ulcers and bad skin, and you’ve got such pretty skin.

Lorelai: This was different. This was bad.

Sookie: People have bad fights. Every bad fight can seem like THE fight. Lorelai: It wasn’t just the fight, Sookie, it was him not fighting for me. I gave him an ultimatum, and he let me walk away.

Sookie: But no, he’ll come back, he’ll be back. He’ll come back. Luke wants to marry you. You know he does. I mean, he’ll come around. He’ll get it together.

Lorelai: I’m done. I don’t want to see him anymore. It’s over.

Sookie: I get that you’re mad. You deserve to be mad. Luke’s been a real jerk, frankly. Being mad at him makes all the sense in the world. And if you’re so mad, you need to believe you guys are over, I get that.

Lorelai: No, you don't get it. I need it to be over because I can't take this anymore. Yes, I love Luke and yes, I wanted to marry Luke, but I didn't want a life separate from Luke and that's all he can give me. I don't want that. If I'm going to be with Luke, I want to be with Luke.And he didn't get it. And I waited. It's like Luke is driving a car,okay? And I just want to be in the passenger's seat, but he's locked the door and so I have to hold onto the bumper. I'm not even asking him to open the door for me, just leave it unlocked and say come in. But no, he didn’t do that. So I’m hanging onto the bumper and life goes on and the car goes on and I get really badly bruised hitting potholes and it hurts, I mean it hurts. So, yesterday I had to let go of the bumper because it hurts too much."

We all love Lorelai and Luke together, but if Luke let Lorelai walk away, then we all know that she made the right decision. One of the best relationships in the history of Gilmore Girls and television in general comes to an end, but it’s for all the right reasons.

Some of the best decisions in life are the hardest ones to make....and this is what I learned from Gilmore Girls.

-Thanks Jaymie! If any of YOU want to join in on the guest posts leave your email in the comments section!

xoxo